As we step into the year 2018, we are all trying to give and receive positive vibes only. Avoiding negativity and hurtful comments should be the way to go about giving out and receiving happiness. Still internet trolls will be there with their hurtful comments and with their excessive criticism of anything and everything that otherwise may not present any reason.
When taking a picture in a sparkly dress next to the man you love makes people comment about your body, question your relationship, make judgements about him for loving you. Our relationship is political. Even though we both know how natural and right it feels. And if the world won’t just let us be, we will keep fighting for our love, for our space, for our right to be seen, accepted without question, and celebrated. In all honesty it’s silly to think it bothers people so much, but when privileged people base their value on attraction and relationships, it results in the plethora of relationships that look like mine being erased and delegitimized. Like somehow I don’t deserve him or our love isn’t real. We are exactly what each other wants, and guess what, our bodies are a part of that. It’s not a abnormal or a fetish. It’s simply natural. So while you insist on yelling your insecurities and bigotry at me, realize I’m not playing the game you play any longer. I’m not playing by your rules. And it’s honestly sad you still are. 2018 is the year for Love that is not defined by weight, age, ability, genitals, gender, sexuality. Not defined by race or ethnicity or religion. We’re having more fun this way anyway ;). #love #bf #relationshipgoals #fatbabe #visiblewomen #louisville #newyearseve #2018 #nye #debshops ………. ALSO THIS DRESS IS FROM @debshops FOR ALL THOSE THAT ASKED. Remember I always tag where I got my clothing in the picture.
Besides body-shaming is never cool and a tad bit immature if you think about it. This still does not take away the fact that it is hurtful and may impact the one who is bullied in several ways. Despite it being childish and immature, the internet trolls thrive on such despicable behavior and live off on the ridicule they hurl at their victims. However this does not in any way affected the body positive activist Melissa Gibson from expressing her true love.
As soon as she uploaded a picture of her kissing her boyfriend on New Year’s Eve the people on internet who have dedicated their lives to making everyone feel miserable started making hurtful comments. The comments ranged from how different their body types are to the fact that she is not at all deserving of such a boyfriend since she is so overweight.
Some others expressed their opinion that her boyfriend must have some sort of ‘fetish’ and a thing for larger women. Others just could not bring their heads around to the two going out in a relationship as it seemed highly unlikely to them.
Fortunately Melissa did not fell for the victim mentality which gives the bullies more reason to press their taunts and torments. She could see the shallow-minded individuals attempting to make her feel bad about her love life but she was not at all affected by their nonsense. She overlooked through the noise and came with a befitting reply to all the haters and cyber bullies.
Only we can fuck it up. Only we can make it amazing. Ours is the kind of love that feels right because we are both present, honest, and excited. The kind of love that flows from two people in love with life. Two people who appreciate the moment and the journey. 2017 brought you into my life, and we face 2018 together. Wouldn’t want to do it with anyone else. Love you Johnathan ❤️. #2018 #nye #louisville #love #bf #ootdeb #debshops
She chose Instagram the same social media platform where the insensitive comments were originally made and again posted a picture with her boyfriend. This time she flooded the caption with her take on such judgmental views of people.
Gibson wanted to emphasize on the fact that she and her boyfriend are crazy about each other and it is not upsetting at all to find people think of their pair as an unlikely duo in a romantic relationship. However it would do much good to not jump to cruel conclusions which are the true reflection of some sort of sickness in the individual’s own head.
Melissa made it very clear that there are several couples like them all over the world and they would also be madly in love with each other, so she also wanted to show them her support and to not crumble under such ridicule.
Just want a feed full of fat babes being in love. Fat babes traveling the world. Fat babes feeling themselves, fat babes lounging on the couch. Fat babes dancing. Fat babes taking mirror selfies. Fat babes being vulnerable and strong. Fat babes going off. Fat babes wearing clothes, fat babes not wearing clothes. Fat babes cheesing with their families. Fat babes parenting. Fat babes standing up for themselves. I want to see fat babes living their extraordinary ordinary lives and feeling empowered. I want to see them no longer having to defend their right to live as they please. I want to see their celebration of their lives not gas lit by thin women interpreting fat babes celebration as discrimination and exclusion of thin women. STOP!! Fat babes don’t have to live and do everything in relation to you. I know that’s hard to imagine when you’ve literally based your entire existence and confidence on comparing yourselves to them to make yourself feel better. Nope, not your inspiration to feel better about yourself. I’m simply a babe living in the world just like you. #bodyjustice #louisville #fatbabe #selflove #bopo #bodypositivity
Melissa is all about carrying your own identity and finding comfort and happiness in your own body image. Not conforming to other people’s idea of what interests or specifically love life you could or could not enjoy.
She expressed her elation on how many of her followers on Instagram got inspired by her devil may care attitude towards such nonsense. The reason that they draw strength and support from her posts like these and admire her for sharing these facets of her life with them is because they feel they are not alone in celebrating their relationships.
It may seem childish and immature to many that people may still factor in such insignificant things like body image and shape or size as a thing which might dictate the love in a relationship. Unfortunately the comments on the post are a sad reminder that we are still living in a society which values superficial attraction as more important.
Since love is an emotion that is not just skin deep but transcends physical realm to a more significant attraction between the individuals.
Melissa showed everyone that 2018 is the year of love and positivity and there is no place for such thinking or to even waste your time dwelling over such behavior. She is confident about her own body type and inadvertently allowing others to shun their insecurities and express their originality as well.