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Five Self-Improvement Tips

No matter how much we deny our weaknesses, we are invariably thirsty for self-improvement. It is never challenging to adopt general principles that apply to lots of areas of life, if we take out a consistent amount of time, and a wee bit of attention for ourselves in the following areas:

1. Be Responsible

Inevitably, we are exposed to so many societal systems when we are young. Our mental and physical growth’s graph is on “gaining” side automatically. But, in the late 20s for the most, this societal training stops, and we have to take responsibility for our own well-being, and improvement, or we will just be idle or even become worse, mentally and physically. Jot down the improvement traits that you want to induce in
yourself. Figure out whatever your goals are and what makes you happy.

2. Working hard Vs. Working Smart

Understand the synergy of how modification of pocket size habits can result in bigger changes. Try to figure out the weightage of certain improvement, and compare it to the toil you need to get to it. Figure out for yourself what small changes could bring the biggest effects. Things like cleaning your diet, or quit smoking can create an enormous effect.

3. Assessing yourself and Setting goals

How would you measure your Self-improvement, if you never realized where you stand? Self-assessment is the key to self-improvement. Effective people mostly set goals, and remind themselves of them regularly. Furthermore, they keep on comparing their current status with their goal, which enables them to estimate the improvement cycle, current status and to-do list for the future. Write down around 5 goals on a small piece of paper, and keep them at a place where you can look at it daily. Or alternatively, jot them down on your phone for daily, and frequent viewing.

4. Giving you the deadlines.

We are pretty dominated by our habits, routines and lifestyle. It can be laborious, to let go of a habit, or create a new one. Therefore, initiating an improvement by dropping a bad habit is not the challenge; consistency is. So just live in a day-tight compartment, by telling yourself daily, to stay away from it till that day. If you merely keep focus on the future, and think to quit it tomorrow, and living in the fallacy that you have A LOT OF TIME; that tomorrow isn’t coming any sooner than your funeral.

5. Understand the one-more-rep theory.

Whatever your job or role is, rendering more than what is expected of you, can result into greater improvement. The trick is not to become too exhausted from your expected work, relax yourself mentally, and leave enough energy to push your stamina to work a little bit more. Let go of your self-pity, and stop accepting mentally, that you are weak, or the work expected from you is too much. Always think about people working ten times more than you, to get twenty times lesser outcomes, and are still surviving.

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Strenuous Part About Traveling No One Talks About

When you are traveling across the world, you try new things, meet people, visit several breath-taking places, and learn about different cultures then it’s all just over. Usually there is talk about leaving, why not about coming home?

We always talk about the difficult aspects when we’re away – searching for work, looking to make some real friends, learning new cultures, wrongly judging people – however, these are the things which you can go through. These low level experiences are forgotten and replaced by the high ones. It is very hard to say goodbye but you know they are inevitable, particularly when you book a flight for home. Such sad partings are renewed when you are reunited with your family and friends which you imagine while leaving in the first place.

You come back home, enjoy your reunions for a few days while catching up on stories and events, etc. You’re very popular the first few weeks but alas, it all goes away. They get used to you being around them, in your home, you lose all the popularity you had when you arrived. Then the routinely questions start: did you find a place to work at? What’re your plans? Are you seeing someone?

However, the depressing thing is once you’re done with all the obligatory visits after being away for so long; you’re in your childhood room then this thought hits you that nothing has changed. You’re pleased at the fact that all are happy, healthy, some have found new jobs, girlfriends or boyfriends, getting engaged, etc. then there’s a part of you which is eating you from the inside at “how much I have changed?” By change I don’t mean physically or appearance wise but by goes inside that mind of yours. The way you see things, your dreams and habits which you are happy about that you lost they are all changed and are now different than what and how they used to be. The new things are now of much more importance to you. You feel the need to discuss and share this feeling with everyone, you want them to recognize this but you don’t know how to describe how you feel when you let the past be past and force yourself to be in the present. You know that you’re feeling and thinking differently since you go through it every moment and day inside your mind, but how to reach out to others? How to communicate with them?

You’re angry, frustrated, feeling lost. There are times when you feel like it wasn’t worth all the effort due to the fact that nothing has changed, on the contrary you feel this is the only important thing you’ve done so far because it changed everything. Is there any safe haven from this aspect of traveling? The idea of trying to communicate this feeling to others is like a foreign language as they don’t understand how you actually feel and are going through.

Hence why you want to leave again after having your first experience traveling. It is known as the ‘travel bug’, however, it’s all about returning to a place where you can surround yourself with people you can interact or intermingle with. All the effort so that you know what it’s like to grow, experience, discover leave and return home again feeling more lost in your own hometown than you did in most foreign place you visited.

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Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Trust Super-Nice People

Got any friends who are so nice it’s unbelievable? Well, here’s what the jury had to say about people who pretend to be super nice. According to a new study, people who are overly polite are more likely to betray you. There are people you come across everyday who kiss up to you for no apparent reason. You might think you’re just that likeable but in reality, you’re not. Watch out! If they try to butter you up, this could be a sign that you should heed.

Faking kindness to win

There’s a huge difference between sickly sweet and someone who is genuinely nice. The key is to look for passive aggressive behaviors and mannerisms. People who pretend to be super nice put a nice front but underneath that nice front, there’s an insecure manipulative mess of a person. They fake kindness to win your heart.

Nice is not the same as loyal

The study involved participants who were asked to play a strategy game in which the players had to negotiate and form alliances using their diplomacy skills and it turned out people who acted overly nice were more likely to backstab their opponents. This pretty much suggests that you can get thrown off by someone who pretends to be overly nice.

Betrayal usually wear a smile

Words and smiles are more dangerous than the wars. Only territories are won by wars while games are won by words. According to the findings “Sudden changes in the balance of conversational attributes, such as positive sentiment, politeness or focus on future planning signal impending betrayal”. In other words, if someone starts being overly nice to you, it’s time to run.

Betrayal can be signaled by sudden changes

Researchers say that betrayal can be foreseen by the sudden changes in the language overly polite people use. Playing nice might be a good strategy but playing it safe can be even better.
Our hearts are not really that good at predicting betrayals but linguistic cues can indicate signs of betrayal. You can be gossiped, lied and stabbed in the back all in the same time by a friend who had a smile on their face. The same could also be said about an enemy who has been a known enemy for really long but decides to change their tune all of a sudden.

Not all that smiles is nice

They say always trust your instincts, if it suggests that something is wrong, them something actually is wrong. There are people out there who live to feed off of the kindness of others and there are also people who use this trait to make you drop your guard for their own means. It is a form of manipulation that we experience everyday but aren’t bothered enough to notice. Things aren’t always what they seem. There’s always two sides to a coin, you just need to flip it in a way that you get to see both the sides.

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13 Situations That Only Short Girls Can Relate To

Each person is unique – special in the individual capacity, and that’s how we are all meant to be. At Tapoos we respect and value who you are, however you are, as a human being. Everyone is stunning in their own way!

On the other hand, short girls would completely approve of when we say that carrying out a few particular activities can be highly taxing at times. The most effective and positive manner of tackling such potentially embarrassing circumstances is by focusing on the funny aspect of it. Like this girl whose words inspired us!

Reaching for the shelf in the kitchen makes cooking a trying chore on a daily!

I avoid looking at mirrors in market or roadsides, for I can’t even see my face!

Doing groceries is as much fun as wall climbing.

To go shopping is like being Jack in Jack in the beans stock.

Who needs to spend on socks when ma jeans got ‘em all covered yo?

Merry go round are my favorite ride cause they’re everywhere!

So what if I can’t see who’s playing? I hear the melodies, not look at them!

I’ll be here when you need someone to lean against

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You Think Homosexuality Is Not Natural? Think Again

Society has always held two views about homosexuality. One, the traditional view, says that it is an aberration, a mental disorder and unnatural. The other, a more modern view, says that homosexuality is a normal variant of human behavior and sexual orientation.

The Gay community has been gaining traction with their arguments based on scientific evidence. It is also being accepted and getting a softer look from the masses. But just like any other phenomenon of the modern age getting attention, the scientific evidence presented by gay advocacy organizations or individuals are often flawed or falsified.

This gives the traditional view holders a leverage with their claim of ‘normal’ behavior. But ‘normal’ behavior is based on the norms and customs of the age and time. What was considered normative behavior 100 years ago might get frowned upon today?

Homosexuality is actually normal and has existed throughout history. Or is it actually a disease? We will shed some light on this. But before we continue any further, we would like to tell you that we do not support or belong to any gay rights advocacy groups and neither do we belong to any anti-gay movement. We are just going to be logical about this issue of homosexuality.

1. Only humans engage in Homosexuality

Over 1000 species have been shown to engage in homosexuality and pair-bonding. These species include elephants, giraffes, pigeons, penguins, dolphins and many more.

2. Reproduction is the main purpose of sex.

Reproduction is not the only purpose of sex. Sexual intercourse may result in reproduction. Humans constantly engage in non-reproductive sexual intercourse with their spouse or partners. Sexual intercourse has a numerous other benefits. Studies have shown that it improves one’s ability to deal with stress, lowers blood pressure, boosts antibody production, burns calories, improves tissue repair and reduces cholesterol amongst other things.

People may engage in sexual intercourse and not have babies due to impotence or old age. Those couples are being sinful when they marry and have sex.

3. There is no proof of a gay gene.

This intentionally ignores that very few inherited conditions are the result of a single gene. Autism is also not associated with a single gene, but nobody claims that people choose to autistic. Sexual orientation cannot be tied down to a single gene.

4. Homosexuality is caused by childhood abuse or bad parenting

This is false. No scientific link has been established between childhood abuse or trauma and homosexuality. Also, upbringing cannot be blamed for homosexuality. Nothing can be blamed for homosexuality. There is nothing to blame.

5. Sexual orientation can be cured with therapy

People have been trying for a long time to ‘cure’ homosexuality with behavioral therapy. Furthermore, it usually does not result in anything. There have been very few cases where a change of behavior was reported, but none of them resulted in a change in sexual orientation. The president of Exodus International once said that close to 99.99% people reported no change to orientation when subjected to ex-gay therapy.

6. If everyone were gay, the human species would die out.

That is kind of true. But there are various other reasons, which if all of mankind was subjected to would result in complete annihilation of mankind. Hence, there is no harm in some people not being interested in the opposite gender for reproduction. We also cannot ignore the fact that artificial insemination is scientifically possible.

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5 Typical Family Members

You come into this world with the best kind of friends you could ever get. A caring dad who goes out to work to provide you with everything you wish for. A loving mom who puts you before anything to shape your future and groom you to be the best ever. An adorable granny who does every silly thing just to make you smile. A wise and humorous grandpa who teaches you a lot with his wise lessons. Cousins, aunts and uncles who could literally take a bullet for you.

These days family reunions are almost non-existent. As everybody seems to be busy with their own lives. However, everybody still wants to belong. There are members in every family who are famous for their traits. Some are up for goofy fun all the time, some will strike you as a gossip every time, then there are some who brag about their success every time you meet them at a family gathering.

This article rounds up some of our most favorite typical family members you will spot at every family gathering. We bet you can’t get enough of them every time you see them at a family get together.

1. The Rescuer Cousin

That one cousin who you look up to, every time you find yourself in trouble. And no! He’s simply not just a relative, he’s more than just that. When all your aunts are teaming up on you asking you to get married. He’s the one who will rescue you. You both do nothing but laugh.

2. The Funny Uncle

He’s the guy who’s older than all of you but looks younger than his age and a confirmed bachelor. He constantly cracks jokes. The most favorite uncle of the entire nephew-niece squad. It’s really hard not to laugh at his jokes. He’s funny, he’s cool, he’s caring all at the same time. He gives you free rides, takes you out for movies every weekend and manages to tempt you with free hamburgers every fucking time you’re on a diet.

3. The Caretaker Aunt

The super cheesey lady in the whole family who doesn’t mind you flirting with her. You can tell her all your secrets and expect her to keep them to herself without a shadow of doubt. She’s the one who’ll understand your situation when everybody else fails to do so. She’ll blow you pecks for every little favour you do for her. You can crack dirty jokes in front of her without any fear of getting scolded. Even if you sneeze, you know she’ll end up taking you to a doctor because she cares!

4. The Spoiled Baby

The youngest spoiled brat in the entire family whose only job is to complain about every little thing. They act like they are always treated unfairly when in reality, they aren’t. They are just little attention seeking morons who want nothing but attention. They’ll hurt themselves and later blame it on you because oh they are the youngest. If you hit them with a tissue paper they’ll cry hell as if you’ve popped their eyes with an arrow.

5. The Forever Young Granny

The youngest lady in the house. Drinks the most at any gathering. She dances with you, sings with you. There’s no way on earth you can convince her she’s growing older because age is just a number. You’ll often spot her making a dirty joke on your grandpa. At every gathering, she’s the celebrity and she’s the boss. She cares for every member in the family, tries her best to keep peace at home.