Author: tapoos

No matter how much we deny our weaknesses, we are invariably thirsty for self-improvement. It is never challenging to adopt general principles that apply to lots of areas of life, if we take out a consistent amount of time, and a wee bit of attention for ourselves in the following areas:

1. Be Responsible

Inevitably, we are exposed to so many societal systems when we are young. Our mental and physical growth’s graph is on “gaining” side automatically. But, in the late 20s for the most, this societal training stops, and we have to take responsibility for our own well-being, and improvement, or we will just be idle or even become worse, mentally and physically. Jot down the improvement traits that you want to induce in
yourself. Figure out whatever your goals are and what makes you happy.

2. Working hard Vs. Working Smart

Understand the synergy of how modification of pocket size habits can result in bigger changes. Try to figure out the weightage of certain improvement, and compare it to the toil you need to get to it. Figure out for yourself what small changes could bring the biggest effects. Things like cleaning your diet, or quit smoking can create an enormous effect.

3. Assessing yourself and Setting goals

How would you measure your Self-improvement, if you never realized where you stand? Self-assessment is the key to self-improvement. Effective people mostly set goals, and remind themselves of them regularly. Furthermore, they keep on comparing their current status with their goal, which enables them to estimate the improvement cycle, current status and to-do list for the future. Write down around 5 goals on a small piece of paper, and keep them at a place where you can look at it daily. Or alternatively, jot them down on your phone for daily, and frequent viewing.

4. Giving you the deadlines.

We are pretty dominated by our habits, routines and lifestyle. It can be laborious, to let go of a habit, or create a new one. Therefore, initiating an improvement by dropping a bad habit is not the challenge; consistency is. So just live in a day-tight compartment, by telling yourself daily, to stay away from it till that day. If you merely keep focus on the future, and think to quit it tomorrow, and living in the fallacy that you have A LOT OF TIME; that tomorrow isn’t coming any sooner than your funeral.

5. Understand the one-more-rep theory.

Whatever your job or role is, rendering more than what is expected of you, can result into greater improvement. The trick is not to become too exhausted from your expected work, relax yourself mentally, and leave enough energy to push your stamina to work a little bit more. Let go of your self-pity, and stop accepting mentally, that you are weak, or the work expected from you is too much. Always think about people working ten times more than you, to get twenty times lesser outcomes, and are still surviving.

When you are traveling across the world, you try new things, meet people, visit several breath-taking places, and learn about different cultures then it’s all just over. Usually there is talk about leaving, why not about coming home?

We always talk about the difficult aspects when we’re away – searching for work, looking to make some real friends, learning new cultures, wrongly judging people – however, these are the things which you can go through. These low level experiences are forgotten and replaced by the high ones. It is very hard to say goodbye but you know they are inevitable, particularly when you book a flight for home. Such sad partings are renewed when you are reunited with your family and friends which you imagine while leaving in the first place.

You come back home, enjoy your reunions for a few days while catching up on stories and events, etc. You’re very popular the first few weeks but alas, it all goes away. They get used to you being around them, in your home, you lose all the popularity you had when you arrived. Then the routinely questions start: did you find a place to work at? What’re your plans? Are you seeing someone?

However, the depressing thing is once you’re done with all the obligatory visits after being away for so long; you’re in your childhood room then this thought hits you that nothing has changed. You’re pleased at the fact that all are happy, healthy, some have found new jobs, girlfriends or boyfriends, getting engaged, etc. then there’s a part of you which is eating you from the inside at “how much I have changed?” By change I don’t mean physically or appearance wise but by goes inside that mind of yours. The way you see things, your dreams and habits which you are happy about that you lost they are all changed and are now different than what and how they used to be. The new things are now of much more importance to you. You feel the need to discuss and share this feeling with everyone, you want them to recognize this but you don’t know how to describe how you feel when you let the past be past and force yourself to be in the present. You know that you’re feeling and thinking differently since you go through it every moment and day inside your mind, but how to reach out to others? How to communicate with them?

You’re angry, frustrated, feeling lost. There are times when you feel like it wasn’t worth all the effort due to the fact that nothing has changed, on the contrary you feel this is the only important thing you’ve done so far because it changed everything. Is there any safe haven from this aspect of traveling? The idea of trying to communicate this feeling to others is like a foreign language as they don’t understand how you actually feel and are going through.

Hence why you want to leave again after having your first experience traveling. It is known as the ‘travel bug’, however, it’s all about returning to a place where you can surround yourself with people you can interact or intermingle with. All the effort so that you know what it’s like to grow, experience, discover leave and return home again feeling more lost in your own hometown than you did in most foreign place you visited.

Got any friends who are so nice it’s unbelievable? Well, here’s what the jury had to say about people who pretend to be super nice. According to a new study, people who are overly polite are more likely to betray you. There are people you come across everyday who kiss up to you for no apparent reason. You might think you’re just that likeable but in reality, you’re not. Watch out! If they try to butter you up, this could be a sign that you should heed.

Faking kindness to win

There’s a huge difference between sickly sweet and someone who is genuinely nice. The key is to look for passive aggressive behaviors and mannerisms. People who pretend to be super nice put a nice front but underneath that nice front, there’s an insecure manipulative mess of a person. They fake kindness to win your heart.

Nice is not the same as loyal

The study involved participants who were asked to play a strategy game in which the players had to negotiate and form alliances using their diplomacy skills and it turned out people who acted overly nice were more likely to backstab their opponents. This pretty much suggests that you can get thrown off by someone who pretends to be overly nice.

Betrayal usually wear a smile

Words and smiles are more dangerous than the wars. Only territories are won by wars while games are won by words. According to the findings “Sudden changes in the balance of conversational attributes, such as positive sentiment, politeness or focus on future planning signal impending betrayal”. In other words, if someone starts being overly nice to you, it’s time to run.

Betrayal can be signaled by sudden changes

Researchers say that betrayal can be foreseen by the sudden changes in the language overly polite people use. Playing nice might be a good strategy but playing it safe can be even better.
Our hearts are not really that good at predicting betrayals but linguistic cues can indicate signs of betrayal. You can be gossiped, lied and stabbed in the back all in the same time by a friend who had a smile on their face. The same could also be said about an enemy who has been a known enemy for really long but decides to change their tune all of a sudden.

Not all that smiles is nice

They say always trust your instincts, if it suggests that something is wrong, them something actually is wrong. There are people out there who live to feed off of the kindness of others and there are also people who use this trait to make you drop your guard for their own means. It is a form of manipulation that we experience everyday but aren’t bothered enough to notice. Things aren’t always what they seem. There’s always two sides to a coin, you just need to flip it in a way that you get to see both the sides.